This is where it gets real... if you don't have a child with attachment issues you probably won't get this. But after Sweet Girls last rage it was a week before I wanted to be around her at all. It was longer than that before I wanted to be nice to her. But SHE was doing better... first one week without a rage, then two, then THREE, then FOUR, and now FIVE weeks without a rage from Sweet Girl. We even survived blue nail polish on our brand new carpet without a major meltdown (although this mom was close! :-)) And with each passing week, I felt my warmth and affection returning. Today I was able to give her the biggest genuine embrace and tell her how proud I was of her self-control. And she returned my embrace with gusto. THIS. IS. HUGE.
It doesn't mean things aren't still hard... they are. Sweet Girl makes a lot of foolish choices, but at least she is learning how to accept correction without going into "fight" mode. It doesn't mean we will never have another rage, we likely will. But we have hope. Hope that they will be fewer and farther apart. Hope that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope that God is working His work of redemption in Sweet Girl's heart and life.
People ask what we did, what changes we made, what was the thing that caused things to get so much better? The answer: persevere and pray. That's all I can say. Persevere and pray. And God has done the rest. There's no secret, and how I wish there was!
In other BIG NEWS. This past month we have been praying about a HUGE decision. And today it was decided that we will put Sweet Girl and Nik Nak in a new school. It is an amazing classical Christian school 15 minutes from our house. Because a classical education is very challenging and academically rigorous, we decided that Sweet Girl will repeat the 4th grade. She was a little sad at first, but we have been able to show her the positives and I think she is coming around. We also FIRMLY believe this is the right decision for her both emotionally and academically.
|A princess in the making...|